"Our key philosophy is that we as individuals are fully capable of achieving anything we want to, so long as we set our minds to it."
Your New Space to Be You:
The Stardust Centre is a dedicated mentoring practice and meditation studio in Penryn, Cornwall. Our key philosophy is that we as individuals are fully capable of achieving anything we want to, so long as we set our minds to it.
We're here to help you nurture your dreams into your new reality- be it a new career, a lifestyle change, or dealing with anxiety and confidence. Through our humanist and client-tailored services, we know you can make anything possible!
Our new office at Tremough Innovation Centre, Penryn Campus, has disabled access, an on-site cafe, rural views, and comfy seating. We have ensured your experience as a client is as comfortable as possible from the moment your mentoring starts.
The centre has been tailored as a safe space for all our clients, be they here for 1 to 1 Mentoring, Guided Meditation, or our new Realising Your Dream sessions.
How Stardust got here; An Interview with Jake Durn:
With a lifetime of insight into the fields of self-care, personal development, and achievement, Jake has also spent the last 5 years accumulating a vast array of experience in mental health advocacy and mentoring.
“The sad truth is- we often put our own dreams on the backburner when faced with health, or family issues. My own pattern was one of scaling back in a crisis, of being expected to not dream too big, and of having a backup idea for ‘when things didn’t work out.' I think what we forget is that the pursuit of our dreams is often the cure to whatever’s ailing us. To freeing us, and bringing us the happiness we need to survive and thrive, in our daily lives.”
“Of all the things in life that should have limits- our dreams are definitely not one of them. I learned that the hard way, but I want you to be able to do it the more healing way. And that starts with reconnecting with your dreams- because understanding what you want and value in life can almost always be learned from analysing those dreams.”
“For instance, I meet people who tell me that all they want is a vacation in some quiet village far away- and I ask them- ‘So why don’t you live somewhere quieter? Then you can have that peace all the time. You can build a life around a peaceful existence’ – then they tell me about their busy city job that they hate so much, but add in a pained voice that they couldn’t live without it.”
“And I just have to go ‘Would you let a partner treat you like that? Or a friend?’ and they frown and then say of course not, so I reply ‘So why are you letting your job treat you that way? Why are you treating yourself and your life that way? You can go someplace quiet. Build a healthier lifestyle. Don’t wait to be at breaking point, or for a one-week vacation’ because I know they don’t want a quiet retreat- they just want a quiet life.”
“And the truth is- if like that client- your dream is moving to a village, owning your own chickens, and freelancing from your at-home rural office, but you keep applying for inner-city jobs that demand your full attention for minimal pay- there really is nothing holding you back from your dream but you. I’ve had only a penny to my name before and still found ways of transforming my life, and it’s important to know you can too.”
“More importantly though, it is never too late to return to that dream! Not if you’re willing to admit what you really want to achieve before your time on this planet ends, be unafraid of what people might think of those dreams, and be ready to do the work that might be required to get there. You can get there! But we must start chasing a dream to have it. To quote an old adage- you have to actually buy a ticket if you want to win the lottery!”
Jake believes the key to compassion is knowing not only the pain people have been through, but also having experience of and knowing how to recover from that pain too. He does this by learning from and gaining insight from his own range of first-hand experiences and diagnoses including:
- Being a young carer
- Childhood trauma
- Bereavement & Grief
- PTSD & Depression
- Coming out as gay & LGBTQ+ issues
- Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (Post-Viral Chronic Fatigue Syndrome)
“I think even my earliest experiences instilled some incredibly limiting and hard to move past beliefs. I’m proud I’ve done as well as I’ve done, and of my recovery, but I’m not too proud to admit that I once believed that my dreams were secondary or avoidable; and that I had no value as an individual.”
“Jake Durn didn’t exist as what I wanted to be, only as what other people wanted me to be, or even as what they didn’t want me to be. I learned people could be cruel, untrustworthy, and that even when I tried my absolute best, it wasn’t going to help those who didn’t want to be helped.”
“I also learned that the anger I had wouldn’t go away by trying to forgive the things and people in life that hurt me. Nothing changed until I forgave myself, for being powerless in certain situations, and for having too much power at too young an age in others.”
“Don’t get me wrong. My experiences were very real and they left deep wounds that seemed impossible to heal for a majority of my life, and I often wore those wounds as if they were a badge of honour or would help me somehow, rather than letting them heal. You could say I had an excuse, they were all I knew at that time.”
“But there just came this point around my 20th birthday where I grew tired of the repeating painful patterns, where I hated that the wounds had taken over all the good I wanted to have in life. I got tired of the bad, and I realised it was time to let go, to forgive myself for not realising it sooner, and by letting those wounds heal, and by moving past them- there was suddenly a lot more room for good.”
“To put it another way, I kind of thought- what if I could take ownership of my life at last, and learn how to make it different?”
Jake has published articles for digital health community The Mighty for several years, been an advocate for accessibility, and still works towards raising awareness and reducing the stigma around health and wellbeing, as well as getting help for the people that need it most.
Jake started The Stardust Centre in mid-2021 to share his experiences and knowledge and to help others with some of the issues he himself has struggled to face and overcome.
"I think there are definitely acts of kindness that made me reconsider what I might truly be capable of. People- teachers, mentors, health professionals, and partners, who taught me the lessons I missed out on because of a turbulent life and had me practice those lessons alone away from past harm. That is what let me become a survivor of certain things, rather than a victim.”
“And it comes and goes quite quickly- as- you know- ‘If that person believes in me despite all the people who haven’t- if they think that- well then maybe I can believe in myself.’ And what I’m saying here- is maybe you can, too. But you do have to choose to. I can’t make you."
"I always had strength, it's true, and I promise you do too. Sometimes it just takes an experienced outsider to show us that reflection of ourselves and make us realise just how strong we really are. Think of it as a 90s rom-com makeover. Once you see this glorious once-hidden version of yourself- you will know it's okay to believe in yourself, as much as we believe in you."
“I’m thankful that I eventually recognised my strengths, and reclaimed them as my own source of energy, instead of letting it go unappreciated or misguided. I also know that without certain people later in my life showing me how to be my own light in the dark, I may not be here today. So, that’s what I want to do- I want to show you how to shine, and not for anybody else- you need to shine for yourself first and foremost.”
“In essence- The Stardust Centre exists to support you in living the life of your dreams. We’re here to be the voice that guides you, and the hand that holds yours when travelling deeper down the dark narrows and struggling to find the way back up yourself. Because we’ve been there. I’ve been there. We know the way out. And we’re here to help.”
Quotes from Jake Durn, the Director, Lead Mentor, and founder of The Stardust Centre.
With editing from Jon Watson, of Reframed Realities: Coaching & Rapid Transformational Therapy.
Mentoring & Coaching - What's the Difference?:
Confused as to what the differences are between these definitions? That's okay! They even explain the difference during most coaching and mentoring programmes- despite them usually training you for both! Sometimes we all just need some clarification!
- Mentor: A mentor is someone who shares their knowledge, skills, and personal experiences, to help another to develop and grow.
- Coach: A coach is someone who provides guidance to a client on their own goals and helps them reach their full potential.
The Stardust Centre's approach to these two definitions and their differences is to simply blend them; combining the practices that come with either role.
This is to ensure you as a client receive an empathetic and compassionate approach that combines the personal experience of mentoring with the proven methodologies of coaching, whilst also allowing for the incorporation of up-to-date research and psychological teachings.